Self Help Fest launched its first instalment in 2014 in San Bernardino, California alongside acts such as Bring Me The Horizon, Of Mice & Men, The Story So Far, Memphis May Fire, Atilla, the Word Alive and many, many more. They later followed it up with a northeast date in Philadelphia that same year.
Over the course of its history, the festival has featured quite impressive lineups including a reunion in 2015. At the time, Aaron Gillespie explained why this festival was a good fit.
On every New Year’s Eve, people commit to make some lifestyle changes they believe will usher in their personal satisfaction and happiness. How many times can we try to lose weight, quit smoking, cut back on alcohol consumption, or try to find a more suitable purpose in life? One answer: As many times as it takes to get it right. (Self Help Fest)
Lasting a change in our life is difficult to achieve when we live a different life because many of our habits are deeply ingrained, and certain core personality attributes may be immutable and it gets tough to start a new routine in initial stages. But all habits and character traits can be altered to varying degrees. It’s never too late to change and with effort and determination, it is possible to be the person you want to be or at least someone closer to it.
Setting a Self Help Fest goal always starts with identifying what one needs by answering both specific and broad questions like: What do you want to change in yourself or in the surrounding? What do you need to do for the change? What are your short-term goals? How about long-term? How realistic and achievable are those goals? What resources are available to help you meet them? It helps to make a list of the benefits of achieving your goals, to use for motivation. It also helps to set a timeframe for meeting both short-term and long-term goals—and to be flexible, because goals can change.
Self Help Fest doesn’t necessarily mean going it alone. Mutual support groups for priorities like weight control, mental health, physical health, ageing, bereavement, parenting, caregiving, career change, and addiction-related recovery not only provide like-minded companionship and encouragement but also knowledge and direction from peers and professional leaders. Personal characteristics, along with the nature and severity of the problem being addressed, will contribute to the effectiveness of any individual or group self-help plan.
The contradiction of self-help is that the first and most fundamental step to growth is to admit that you’re okay as you are and that you don’t necessarily need anyone else’s help. It’s the prime belief, and by its very definition, it’s something that can’t be given to you by someone else, it must be reached on your own.
The irony is that once you do accept that you don’t need someone else’s help or advice to become a good person, it’s only then that their advice truly becomes useful to you. (Self Help Fest)
So in a way, self-help is most useful for people who don’t actually need self-help. It’s for the OK-to-Great people, not the Bad-to-OK people, although those are most of the people who get caught in its net and spend their money on it.
Self-improvement is quite literal in its meaning — it’s used to enhance oneself, not to replace it. If you’re looking to replace who you are with something else, then you will never succeed, and you’re more likely to get sucked up into the nonsense and pseudo-science and suppress your feelings of inadequacy rather than deal with them head-on. (Self Help Fest)
Happiness doesn’t work in the way people think it does and the way does not remain the same for achieving different happiness.
“Self help books” isn’t the most thrilling section of Barnes & Noble until you realise it’s stocked with a handful of incredible, non-cheesy books that simply makes you feel good of yourself – it’s like you are receiving advice from a trusted girlfriend or an inspiring mentor of yours who you are been following for years now. No matter what you’re going through in your life—a breakup, a career change, an identity crisis, a financial problem or maybe you’re just feeling blue for no reason—we can all use a little pick-me-up every now and then which will help you feel better. These empowering books, below, should be in the list of your required reading in 2020.
No matter what you’re going through, just know that you’re never alone. Whether it’s a break-up, confidence issues, or just a general life rut that has you feeling down, these self-help books for women offer sage advice that can help see you through. Here are some of my favourite reads of self help books for women and self help books for men that we find ourselves reaching for, time and again.
Self Help Books for Women
Even though we are in the middle to complete a year, there’s still plenty of time to conquer all of the goals you’ve set for the year and let me remind you if you are willing to achieve a goal you will achieve it in a week also if you are that passionate about it. Don’t know where to start? Look no further than these books. None of them will give you advice that is boring or the advice you’ve heard a million times before but this self help books for women will inspire you to be your best, happiest, and most authentic self.
1. Girl Stop Apologising: In this follow-up from the mega-popular “Girl, Wash Your Face,” Rachel Hollis takes her she’s-your-bff style of writing to a new level. She’s blunt and your number one fan at the same time, so her kick-your-butt attitude will help you get unstuck and go for what you want. One-by-one, Hollis busts the excuses (read: lies) you’ve been feeding yourself that have kept you from achieving big things and gives you a solid plan for what you have to do to help you realise your goals and ambitions.
If you feel like you’re drowning in people-pleasing, unable to say no, and are having a hard time finding your talents and then singing them at the top of your lungs, Hollis will help you shed what’s holding you back. Ready to embrace your what if? (Self Help Fest)
2. You are a Badass: If you ever needed a more straight-to-the-point pep talk, let “You Are a Badass” be it. Jen Sincero is honest in her approach: you don’t have to wait for a life-changing event to actually change your life. “You’re going to have to let go of old, limiting beliefs and cling to your decision to create the life you desire like your life depends on it,” she writes.
Whether you want your romantic life to change or find career success, you can decide to start making the shifts needed to cultivate a full, happy life you want right now, Sincero urges. And you know what? It’s easy to believe her and then march forth with gusto to unravel the untruths your head’s been spinning, and create an action plan that will pull out your inner badass. Because she’s in there.
3. How to be Single and Happy: Sick of swiping? Had enough crappy blind dates? Over cringeworthy setups? A clinical psychologist Jennifer Taitz is here you help you out, she uses her own knowledge, research, and client interviews that will help you to live your life at the best and happiest no matter what and I repeat, no matter—your relationship status. In getting there, you’ll learn to shake off past relationships (and all their baggage), stop overanalysing bad dates, and rid yourself of any guilt about being single, says Hamroff.
4. The Gifts of Imperfection: In the wonderful world of self-help content, Brené Brown is a household name—which makes sense given her vast research and knowledge on shame, perfectionism, and empathy (and how all three impact mental health). With this title in particular, Brown teaches the reader to let go of perfectionism and lean into the discomfort “that [she’s] trying to protect [herself] from,” per Mancao. For all those struggling with vulnerability and perfectionism (**raises hand**), she says this read is right for you. (Self Help Fest)
5. How to get Shit done: With a title like that, you don’t need to tell me twice: I’m sold. But in case you’re not there just yet, here’s a bit more info: How to Get Sh*t Don is a question that keeps me up every night is a no-B.S. guide to reframing productivity, so you can best achieve your dreams. The secret? Stop doing everything for everyone else, and start doing what matters to you, according to author Erin Falconer, editor-in-chief and co-owner of the highly respected self-improvement site, Pick the Brain. Sounds like one huge task to take on, but Falconer is there every step of the way with actionable and realistic resources.
We have many in the list of self help books for women but for now we would like you to read these books and may these reads have some positive impact on you girls.
Self Help Books for Men
Ain’t no shame in needing a little bit of help—even if it’s just from a book. But with so many self-help titles on the market these days, finding the right read for you and your current snitch isn’t always a walk in the park book store. (Self Help Fest)
The personal life coach, self help books for men (and women) will steer you through the toughest of times and help you to get through the difficult life situations. Whether you’re struggling with depression or anxiety, pursuing a new career, or navigating the crazy world of modern love, these best-sellers make for veritable how-to-guides and confidence boosters alike. Their perennial popularity drives home the notion that you’re not alone, as does the fact that many of them were written by someone who walked down your same path. Naturally, self-help books by professional psychologists are no less resourceful.
Self help books for men can be a good way to improvise your habits and perspective of looking towards something in personal as well as professional life.
- Unf*ck Yourself: Get out of Your Head and into Your Life- Have you ever felt like a hamster on a wheel, furiously churning your way through life but somehow going nowhere? Unfu*k Yourself is the handbook for a manifesto of real life change and unleashing your own greatness. A book that knocks the self-help genre on its unscientific ass. You will learn how to stop the fear of being your own boss and how to put an end to your lifelong social suckage that you are carrying your entire life till now.
- Get out of Your Own Way- Sometimes the kitchen sink approach is the best approach. Enter this top self-help book by psychiatrist Dr. Mark Goulston and co-author Philip Goldberg. If you can think of it, you’ll find it here. That includes procrastination, guilt, anxiety, self-pity, compulsiveness, and a slew of other self-defeating behaviours.
- Eat that Frog- Another book with a title that really stands out.It comes from the old Mark Twain quote, “Eat a live frog first thing in the morning and for the rest of the day nothing worse will happen to you.” This makes a lot of sense when you think about it deeply. The core message is one that’s worth remembering. Do the things you normally put off first. Complete it and don’t let them come in your way and enjoy the rest of your schedule without hustle. It’s not revolutionary, but it’s a quick and concise read. This is a perfect read if you’re in need of a productivity boost and some inspiration to get going.
- The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem- So many male issues are borne of problems with self-esteem. If you don’t believe that you’re a worthy and capable man, it’s almost impossible that you convince others because if you yourself are not sure of what you can do you cannot convince others of it. If you are suffering from self-confidence issues, this self-help guide will help you from practicing psychotherapist Nathaniel Branden is a must-read.
- The Power of Habit- In The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg explores why habits exist and how they can be changed. Consider this book if you want to discover how you can change your life by changing your habits.
There are some other books also that you can prefer for self help books for men like the power of subconscious mind, the subtle art of not giving a f*ck, Think and grow rich, and more. These are some common books that we know help in self growth and inspiration.
Hope you all liked our few suggestions on self help books about men.
Self Help Fest 2019
A Day to Remember has brought back the Self Help fest 2019 back, this time plotting two festivals with a first-ever Boston-area edition.
The Boston Self Help fest 2019 will take place in Worcester, Massachusetts Sept. 7 at the Palladium outdoors. Bands that joined the host headliner include Falling in Reverse, Fever 333, Wage War, Whitechapel, This Wild Life and the Acacia Strain, with other more acts expected.